There are many points in life where we have to do tough things. We try to make new friends, we try to recover from an illness, we try to recover our children, we try to get over something hurtful that someone said to us. I have found that if I keep trying to do those things, it never happens, or only partially so. But when I change my attitude to, "I am doing this well, it is for me, and it is happening now", truly amazing things happen, and that is the sweet spot.