Do you believe that you are just as important as anyone else? When you refuse to express what you need and want to those around you- those who love you- you are training them to walk on eggshells.
When people have to put on their nasty pants and then get online in order to disseminate their own self loathing and lack of understanding to others, there's really no good excuse for that. Therapy is available to all, in one form or another. And, yep, those who need it most may never get it.