A narcissist tends to view the holidays as very event-based, and the minute that the gathering or party is over, they unfortuntely go back to being miserable. They believe very strongly in always doing every holiday gathering the same way, even when it's draining and tedious for everybody (including themselves), and they are very much thrown for a loop when somebody suggests doing something differently, or, heaven forbid, a part of the family decides that they are going to do something altogether different for the holidays. The will punish you through a narcissistic fit involving tears, silence, or anger and yelling. (Remember, most narcissists resist growing or changing and don't believe that they have a need to do so, so why would they want to let anything else in their lives evolve- remember, the narcissist views you an extension of themselves, existing for their needs-not a separate person...)
It is a beautiful thing to be able to transcend. Just because we are "in" this world, does not mean that we need to be "of" this world. What new traditions have you created for yourself and for your family based on following your own heart, rather than the more self-serving needs and desires of those around you? It takes a very confident person to do things differently. It takes someone who values themselves enough to understand that what is right for others, may not necessarily be right for them or for their family.
Do you want to define yourself, or do you want to continue to believe in how others have defined you? Nobody has your best interests at heart in the way that you do.
So for those of us who are sort of left to navigate multiple levels of physical, sexual and emotional abuse on our own...where does this leave us? This is the kind of thing faced by a person who has grown up largely unprotected, not listened to, and gaslighted. It can leave us raw, broken, and aimless, grasping and defeated...with tremendous physical illnesses that manifest as a result of all we have been submitted to...
Do you believe that you are just as important as anyone else? When you refuse to express what you need and want to those around you- those who love you- you are training them to walk on eggshells.
When people have to put on their nasty pants and then get online in order to disseminate their own self loathing and lack of understanding to others, there's really no good excuse for that. Therapy is available to all, in one form or another. And, yep, those who need it most may never get it.
The negative state of world, on heavy repetition, is not what we need to be filling our heads with if we want to feel good. You are letting others (strangers-and not very intelligent ones at that) wash your brain with half-truths, sensationalism and divisive stories. Stories designed to do exactly what they are doing, divide our nation and divide our world.
You don't get to hide behind your religion and judge others for what your perceive their walk with God to be. That is between them and God. Hate has nothing to do with God. You think that you are hiding within your holier-than-thou attitude, but you really just look cruel and close-minded. And you aren't fooling anybody but yourself. There is no room in this world for bigotry, misogyny, judging of folks for their sexuality, or hate of any kind. When you judge others, you don't just hate- you ARE hate.